“They don’t want me.” My youngest daughter squeaked out these words between sobs as she curled in a ball in the back of the car a few days ago. Her “friends” no longer wanted her in their circle. Ouch. (Had to stifle my Momma bear reflexes🐻). The sting of rejection, more like a horse kick to the gut, knocking the wind out of you. I’ve felt both, rejection and a horse kick, equally painful, but one heals faster. After lengthy hugs and listening, I shared my own 5th grade stories of rejection, followed by examples of Jesus being rejected. He was well acquainted with rejection, even from His own disciples, on the way to the cross. He can empathize.
While no one wants to experience rejection, it can be extremely useful. Rejection can save us from making the wrong life choices….what if my first boyfriend hadn’t broken up with me? Thank you Jesus for that rejection! 🙌😉 Though I say that semi jokingly, there is truth to it. I wasn’t wise enough back then to understand that God had something better planned, and someone, far greater for me…but it took the pains of a break up to discover His plan. Fear of being alone kept me from making that obvious, better choice. Even more importantly, being rejected can draw us closer to the One that will never leave us or forsake us, the lover of our souls, Jesus. We have a choice when rejected by people, choose to put our whole trust in God, wade in the depths of hurt and depression that follow, or skip to the next person, in our attempt to avoid pain. He is the only One that can meet those deep longings of our soul, to be fully known, fully loved and fully accepted. Yes, we are to have people in our lives, but none should or can take His place.
How do you cope with rejection? Do you seek God in those moments and ask Him to heal the hurt? He has great plans for you, greater than you can imagine. Will you trust Him to reveal that to you, even through the horse kicks of rejection? Ask Him to give you His perspective and heal those wounds for His greater plan. Don’t just bounce to the next relationship in an effort to skip the process of learning and healing. Be still and know He is God in your pain. He will give you the strength to rise above the ashes of rejection. We can do ALL things through Him alone!
Jer.29:11~For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Deut.31:6~…for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”